[Winry Rockbell]

Okay... This kind of follows up from the long distance relationship topic, but then again... doesn't.

We all know there are diffeent age consent for sex.

But should there be one?
If so... what do you really think the PERFECT age consent could be?
What do you think of people having sex at such a young age?

etc...

I have a preference to have an age consent and to not have one. I think it's good idea to have an age consent of maybe around 16 or 17, since I think it's rather good age where teenager's are often mature about it by that age. But then again, the different age's between a couple can vary...

[I might edit my view]

[KaiserDragon18]

I don't exactly agree with premarital sex...so messy and what the heck is the relationship afterwards? What happens if you break up? What was your relationship if that happens? (eternal questions, I know...)

Anyway, if it has to happen (and not much actually HAS to happen), I'd have to say it's 18. You have enough experience by that time, plus it's the age when you are recognized by the state as an adult.

And we all know, the state is always right...

[Monty]

If it concerns my sisters, they aren't old enough and one is married. =p

Honestly, I think it is at the point that a person has become responsible for who they are. Some people are at that point as early as 14. But most people reach that age around the time the graduate high school and either go to college or go and get a job.

So, if I were to suggest an age, that would be it.

Monty

[Aidan]

I don't agree with there being a designated age for legal sex. The topic of "sex" is one that depends on the person; one person may find sex before marriage to be perfectly normal, whereas another person might be devoutly religious and disagree with it entirely. In my opinion, if two people are in a loving relationship, then sex is just another way of expressing their love for eachother. I do not agree, however, with lustful sex because there's no meaning and inward emotion to it. It's just sex, and nothing more.

Still, even if there were strict laws prohibiting underaged sex, it would still occur as frequently as it does now.

[xlosergirl182]

I lost my virginity when I was 16 to a guy that I was in love with and are still in love with because I'm still in a relationship with him. We've been dating for over 5 months, and although it may seem too early in the relationship to have sex for most teens, this just felt right. Our relationship is very very good. It hasn't turned into a purely sexual relationship. We know eachother very well on an emotional and sexual level..and it works.

And if we do break up, we both know that we shared something special. If we do break up, I wouldn't regret losing my virginity to him, because I know that he loves me and I love him. And, I'm also glad that I lost my virginity to someone who was older (he's 17) and (as bad as this may sound) someone who was not a virgin...because it made me more calm and comfortable to know that he knew what he was doing..because i sure didn't lol. It sounds bad when you read that, but you'd understand if you experience it.

If you have sex with someone that you're in a relationship with and it doesn't work out, it doesn't mean that your relationship with that person didn't mean anything. It doesn't mean that your relationship was purely for sexual pleasure. It means that your relationship just didn't work out, for whatever reason, it just didn't work out.

Anyway, back on topic...
i think that if you're mature enough and responsible enough to have sex, be aware of the consequences if something goes wrong and know to use protection...and how to use protection, then all the power to you. Since I'm not on the pill, I use condoms and spermacide. You also have to have the will-power to not have sex when protection is not available.

So I'm gonna say 16 or 17.

[Devlin A Dreadwood]

Meh ... I didn't get popped till i was 21 but as for Concent .... I would have to say put it at 18 because thats when things get all nice and legal. When you deal with an age gap theres always the chance that afterwords someone might not be happy with what happened and they run to someone and go oh oh he did this to me and hurt me and as the courts will see it its your word againsttheres and no way to prove otherwise. It gets even messier when one persons 18 or older.

for safty sakes kids dont get in the sack until your at least 18 then if you get screwed up you can only blame yourself

[Amalthea]

I don't exactly agree with premarital sex...so messy and what the heck is the relationship afterwards? What happens if you break up? What was your relationship if that happens? (eternal questions, I know...)

Anyway, if it has to happen (and not much actually HAS to happen), I'd have to say it's 18. You have enough experience by that time, plus it's the age when you are recognized by the state as an adult.

And we all know, the state is always right...

I agree with most of this... except for the state is always right part

But anyways... there is not really a good age for premarrital sex. Its not a good idea and many times sex does ruin the relationship.

Its obviously better to have sex after you've been married... but the age of consent around where I live is 17. Which I guess is close enough to 18.

Blah. In the long run... horomones race, and keeping them at bay for as long as one can is an admirable feat.

[Zanian]

Here in Denmark the average age for the "first time" is 16. I however, lost my virginity already at the age of 12 (tho I admit that was too soon).
I personly think 14 should be the minimum. As long as the age difference between the two partners isn't to big. (14/14-16 is ok).

And as for premarital sex?...well, I dun believe in marriage (the only thing it does, is put the 2 ppl's love on a piece of paper..and when they split up (which they do most of the times) it only has negative effects).
So ofcourse I'm a big fan of premarital sex

[Nanashi]

I do believe that sex should be taken lightly - meaning like "I'm bored let's do it" comparitively speaking all other organism doesn't have sex without a practcical and sensible reason. if Nature does teaches us about sex so does moral.

To me the age to a perosn to have sex is not a fixed number of age - but it's the moment of one's life to fully undertand the responsibility and the very defintion of having one. To either produce and well upbringing of new offspring to continue man's reckoning. And to commit to a person that deserves it - meaning for love not for lust.

[Red_ryaN]

i just seen an hour long episode of "penn and tellers bull sh1t" about this kind of thing last week...
i dont remember exactly what they said but! they said that the U.S is spening 1billion dollars a year on keeping ppl iggnorent to sex.. they r teaching abstenence in school but arnt actually teaching them about sex and why not to have it b4 ur married blah blah. and these ppl goto schools and tell the kids that u can get aids from ppls tears and stuff which is completly false.. and also did u kno its safer to jack somone off than it is to kiss them?

anyways what the main point of the show is that do what YOU want. when YOU feel ready. not when the goverment or ur religion tells u...

so yea i agree with penn and teller. if ur mature and ready enuf for sex than it doesnt matter about ur age.. its ur dicision..

o and also some women that use to work for the president or somthing (i forgot what she did lol) but she got fired becuz she said it was ok to masterbate

and bak to the billion dollars to keep us stupid.. they showed some of the things they teach and this one girl was teaching the class about abstenence and she said
a couple in love is like a peice of paper (and she held up a peice of paper)
and sex is a burning flame or somthing? (and she held up a lighter)
and she said "this is what happens if u have sex b4 ur married" then she lit the paper on fire..
and shes like "see? the burning flames of desire didnt help their relation-ship at all did it? it destroyed them!"

and bak to when i said it was safer to jack som1 off rather than kiss them.
well the ppl that are going to schools teaching about abstenence also said its not ok to masterbate cuz u will get an STD (from ur self? yea right) and other non-sense like that

then it showed a segment of ppl who are in their mid 20's and they are still virgens.. and penn and teller said theres nothing wrong with that as long as its their decsion.. and then they explained why they chose abstenence untill marriage and it made a lot of sense

so yea back to the subject only have sex when YOUR ready for it.. thats my opinion anyway

[Bubble]

I was arguing in a debate about this recently. Our entire college was judging and the topic was whether the age restrictions for things such as sex, alcohol, voting etc should be lowered. My partner and I were arguing aainst them lowering, and in the end, an overwhelming majority voted in our favour. We all felt the age of 16 for sex and the other age restrictions in Britain were sound and didn't need to be changed. After all, though the law is there, it is basically a guideline. There are plenty who break the law, and there always will be. After all it is a very personal decision which I don't think should be taken so lightly. Being that we're all individuals, the time when we are each "ready" will vary.

I think 16 is old enough to decide. I mean if the law feels that at 16 I am old enough to marry, and at 17 old enough to drive, then the responsibilty for sex lies somewhere in between that. In my opinion the government should concentrate on teaching contraception and the morals behind it, trying to ensure that people make a wise decision about when they decide to start having sex.

[Pesmerga]

I think a couple should be able to have sex if they are adult enough, as in they wan't to have sex because they love each other and not because they think it is cool, or wanna be part of some group or so .

Also, they should be physically ready aswell, it is diffirent for every person, but usually it is around 16 and I don't think it should get below that point. It is an age in where both sexes find out more about their body and learn about those things (although I got taught at my 13th), it is a good age to start "experimenting" and whatever. Of course this differs from person to person.

[Drakos]

I learned about sex when I was 8, knew all of the intricate details at maybe 9, so knowledge enough about one's body isn't enough. Even having gone through the changes isn't enough, not in today's society where we have enough problems as is without throwing sexual dilemmas into the mix.

The age of consent should be 16 at least. Why? because if you truly understand sex, you should be willing to wait till that age at the very least. If you're so impatent that you need it before then, then you honestly don't understand and shouldn't be doing it. I would say fourteen, but that causes problems, specifically because most people don't understand just what sex brings on fully until much much later in life.

I don't take sex very seriously, but the consequences are greater than most people are willing to admit. STD's, meh. Whatever, most kids wont think they get them. Its not a huge issue for them. The biggest thing for me is pregnacy, because it happens, even in instances where both parties have taken whatever precautions they could. I've seen too many girls get pregnant with boys they "loved" anywhere between ages fourteen and twenty one, and none of them were ready for it at all. And thats where sex truly comes into play. Because as fun and enjoyable as it is, it has a purpose that attempts to fulfill itself, and until people recognize this, they only grasp a half-understanding of what sex truly is.

Age consent: Sixteen.
Why? Because most kids can't hold it in much later, and most kids finally are beginning to understand what it means.

However, i'm partial to the Chapelle approach. Most of you don't know what it is, and it's far too funny for me to attempt to explain.

[Denim]

The fact of the matter is, age of consent only matters in lawsuits dealing with pedophiles with an overwhelming age differance. I believe I read a few years ago on this forum a news article about a 18 year old guy who slept with a 12 year old and the judge said that "he wasn't a pedophile, just immature," and that's just it. At 6 years differance people marry - even 10, over that, I think it's crossing the line, though.

Granted, I feel kids (if you can't vote...) really shouldn't indulge in it, as a lot of them tend to be irresponcible. And by this, I mean a lot. Probably due to the laxness in sex education, which I feel should be a required class in schools or something.

Sex ed is more important than laws setting up for age of consent.