Ive finally grown up after realizing what i want in life. I suppose that even the worst of pains have a purpose.... getting to the topic, at what point in your life did you realize that you HAD to change or be ready for the most pain in the @$$ expereince ever in your life.

Okay, I am cool with saying it but can you guys fill in the words because I hate saying it.

I realized I had to change when I remembered my older brother doing something to me that I had blocked out of my mind since I was seven. The reason why I remembered was because of my ex who had done something similar and that triggered it. I began having anxiety attacks and I became afraid of people in general and I kept fainting.

eventually I knew I couldn't keep on like that so I had to change myself by creating a barrier of sorts which has made me more sarcastic but now I can see things as they really are and make fun of them.

So I guess you could say I grew up because I knew that if I stayed down any longer and didn't try and get over this, I'd be causing a burden to my friends and family so I had to fight my demons as they say.

And when I found out that not everyone is exactly how they seem.

That was my growing up moment
And I am going about it beautifully with a couple of obstacles here and there.

I don't have to change. Pretty simple.

My life transition happened at 14 years of age.
After becoming the most accomplished drug dealer my side of town knew I was the only 14 year old kid I have ever met that woke up at 10am didnt go to school and cracked open an ice cold bud-light and chased it with a soma and a boll lol.

So I got kicked out at 14 and lived on the streets.
got a job and my mom signed for an apartment.
worked 80-100 hours weekly on 2-3 jobs pending to the season.

Then I moved in with my dad.


To make a long story short I am the only 17 year old man I know.
I was a boy at 14 and I am a man now. I am doing great. I cant sit here and type my entire life story over chat it would take forever. But long story short is I have been clean for 3 years and in a year I will be a fire fighter for the state of AZ and soon a "Hot Shot" for the US national widelife wildfires. I just hit my party streak young lol.

Its all good now though.

I have always been rather mature, but I had two rather acclerated growing-up moments.

The first was my nine-year relationship. In the beginning, I grew up rather quickly and matured throughout the entire process. Also, at the end, I matured beyond it and that relationship has taught me about myself and the world around me.

The second would be getting a full-time job. Within a couple of weeks, I was an adult and I haven't looked back. I am not kid anymore. I am an adult and in some respects, a man. So those two events have really shaped me into who I am today and I am very thankful for both.

i love who i am, no need to change what i am for anyone.

I don't have any huge life changing moments, to be honest nothing has happened to me ever I haven't experienced any saddening deaths, traumatic experiences, heart destroying break ups or the inspirational coming from a really bad place into a really good place. And I don't want to experience any of that, although I know I will have to face something. I suppose all I'm really doing is trying (and sometimes failing), to make myself a stronger and better person who has fun with life. So when something happens, I'll hopefully have developed the strength to cope. But anyway, I'm amazed at how many opportunities life has to offer, embrace them and just love yourself tehehe

Being 29 I had to grow up a long time ago, but I've had a few big changes in my life that were mostly for the better the first was my ex of 6 years leaving me (at aged 21) and although I didn't think that was good at the time it lead me to get out with the boys more often and basically party my ass off in every way imaginable for almost two years straight and those were some of the best damn years of my life which never would've happened in a long term relationship The partying came at a price though and I don't want to give out lectures so I'll leave it at that lol!

I suppose this also counts as earlier this year I wised up and stopped listening to other peoples bullsh!t and put downs so now I've enrolled in a college course that I've been wanting to do for years. It's going to take a total of five years to complete once the degree is finished and I'm facing a lot of hard work and sacrifice but I'm confident that it's going to be worth it. The only downside is, I'm expecting to be one of the oldest if not the oldest on the course but that's what happens when you hesitate for too long - ah well at least I look younger than I am One thing I can advise anyone from this experience is if there's something in life that you've always wanted to do then do it because it's better to try and fail than to have never tried at all and end up wondering 'what if' when it's too late.

My son being born was also by far the most amazing thing that ever happened to me and a big factor in my decision to take control of my life as one day I want him to one day be able to look at me and be proud that I'm his dad. All that said though I'm still a big kid at heart

I'll never "grow up"
but 2nd semester of gr12 I had an epiphany
and realized "wow, I really need to goto university and get a decent job"

all my family live on min. wage or welfare
and it sucks

and all I did with my life was have fun and skate and stuff
and my thoughts were "I just wanna get outta highschool"
with no plan for afterwards :/

so once I realized I need a future, I started taking life more seriously, and became more "mature"
and stuff
I know now there are consequences for our actions
so I avoid conflicts as much as possible now, and other things that will cause complications in life

December 25th, 1995.

Not getting into details but it taught me not to get attached to anything.

Change?

Look man, I'll I got on me is one ##### up quarter, and it wont get you any alcoho.....

OH, ok, the other kind of change.

Why should I? I like who I am, and don't really regret my past because it made me who I am today. No life altering moments (at least none I can remember), no "Oh #####, I should be doing this." I just kind of go my own way, if I want to do something I do it. If I don't, then I wont.

I don't think you can put a definitive point on the time you're going to grow up. You're forever learning and your personality evolving, thus you're forever growing.
I've grown up a lot, but I'm not grown up if that makes any sense. You sure as hell don't ever grow down.
There is of course major turning points in some people's lives that can radically change them inside, but lets face it - you're only 20 and if you're still using symbols to convey swearing, you don't strike me as a mature individual and I think you have a lot of growing to do. But then maybe you see that yourself too.
Best of luck I guess, just don't be so damn doomsday about life - for one thing, you have NO idea what pain is ok? and chances are if you're smart you won't ever have to know. Find your purpose or at least something to work towards and cherish the hard times as lessons well learned.

I'm not grown up. I don't know when that'll happen, though maybe emotionally I am mature, but certainly not financially. I know I should be at the old age of 21, but eh, I screwed up a little in college. But I'm making my way now.
Though I changed much last year. It was good change.

with the death of my mom ive grown up now ,ive now lost both mom and dad.... I lost dad to drugs and mom to heart attacks. Everything on my side's in chaos right now, everyone wants my moms fortune. she left it in her will that it is left to me but my greedy family was all over me constantly trying to make me forfeit it to them. with all of that happening, i came to distance myself from my own family in a last ditch attempt for peace. After that i didnt know what to do so i sought after comefort forming multiple barriers of rage and despair, utilizing each one to repulse all from me but may(my girlfriend) wouldnt leave me... she stayed by me through the whole thing and somehow managed to relax me.... at this point, i plan to propose to her once i finish tying up loose ends. we'll see how we go from there. I wonder how she'll react...hmm....-__-

by letting this out i feel as though a great burden has ben lifted from my shoulders...-__-

Are you trying to tell us something? O_o

tch... my post says it. no comment please.

He is pregnant. I did it.

Odd place to get pregnant in...

so youre gay then? hmmm.....-__-

well, you are bearing his child....


THERE IS A BABY NOIR INSIDE YOU!!!

Okay this is random but that touched me...you kind of sound like my boyfriend(you are not him for my name is not May) not the same experience but the same kind of reaction because he had it hard too and apparently being with me is the happiest he has ever been. So I get what you are saying and just me being random how long have yall been dating AND she'll probably be embarrassed and giggle. (trust me on this one)

Wow...we all seem to have our little hardships...makes me kind of want to write a book or a play...meh. However I am happy that everyone is surviving through them...gives me that warm fuzzy feeling inside~

weve been dating for a little over 2 months but i feels like wve been together for years... akward but true.

I bet that NEVER happens.

fine ill play along . im getting an abortion, jason vorhees over here!*slash* ah there done.*runs for life*

Tis not awkward. I am the same, we are buddies in this. Been dating him for about a MONTH and yet he knows everything about me, every lie, every story, every embarrassing truth, and especially every mood swing and vice versa. So I understand well if she feels the same then you two will get married although I get the feeling that getting ready for the marriage is going to be the hardest~ Good luck sir!

My god, if it dosent work out with may, i think ill still ave yu! what the hell? are we soulmates?()

2 months is too short in my honest opinion. I'm just one of those people who doesn't think marriage should be rushed. But if you're really keen and sure then I'd suggest pre-marital counselling first (Yes, I watch too much Dr Phil ) but meh, I've never been married so I wouldn't really know how things will turn out either way. Sorry about the lecture there. All the best!

P.S for someone who's looking to make one of the biggest commitments you could make to someone, I'm pretty sure you should maybe cut down on the online flirting, cos I doubt you'd be happy if May was doing the same thing. Though it is Raisha... and well irresistable is irresistable

Are you cybering?

heheh... i know may, in fack i know she's flirting with someone now but im not the jealous type so i dont care.

i agree completely.. thinking of marriage after two months? and you wonder why we have such a high divorce rate in the world, its because of crap like this... If you think she is good enough to marry at 2 months, then she is prolly going to be even better to marry after 8 months or after a year. Do not rush things, enjoy your time together and build something more solid in that time, then get married. Jump into things now and you are doomed to fail sorry, it wont work...I dont get why people feel the need to rush into things unless they are scared the person will leave them and if thats the case then you have a weak view of yourself.

good thing this is a topic about growing up... you should really grow up and think before you act.... i weep sometimes for the future..

^ This. I'm currently in a year and a half relationship and I sure as hell am not ready to get married. Am I in love? Most definitely. Are we best friends as well as partners? You bet your ass we are. But I still wouldn't, simply because I don't know how long we will continue lasting, there's so much more to do and learn, issues to resolve and rough patches to smooth over. I don't mean to rain on your parade KOS, but take some time to make your relationship stronger first, there is such a thing as 'the honeymoon' stage, wait till that ends and see if you still feel the same way.




Future? I laugh in the face of future, HA HA HA!

if only i was that strong

I should say college. But I won't. Because it's not true. I'm still the same lazy, lackluster, one-nighter-essay-runs girl that I was in High School.

Who knows. Maybe the whole growing up process will hit me more when I'm 20 rather than 19.

lol!!! i havent grown a bit since i graduated highschool this year and i dought thats gonna chane. I guess well see cus you never know.

I second this notion.

Well, I'm in the middle of an area that's second to only Vegas for quickie marriages (no booze involved though...). I've seen too many people who think that marriage is the best thing because they're "in love". I've heard that some get engaged after only KNOWING each other existed for a week. They think all is "hunky dory" till REALITY sets in and they break off the engagement. (The "marriage" classes taught by my university primarily teach against this notion of quickie marriages)

Now in my case, in my religion, we believe that a guy and girl should not live with each other until they're married. We also believe that marriage is an eternal thing (a.k.a. no "till death do you part"). I've been dating my fiance for the past year and a half. (longest relationship I've ever been in). So the question I've been seeing here is, "Can I honestly live with this girl/guy for the rest of my life??" with regards to "should I marry him/her". Here's my take on it:

Marriage is full of surprises. There is NOTHING that you can technically plan for. I think that people who are right for marriage are flexible people who can roll with the punches. If you're a VERY stubborn person, I would suggest to know that your partner will be able to handle your stubbornness and love you for it. Obviously "love" isn't the only thing a relationship needs. It needs hard work and kind heart if faults do happen.

If you date for more than a year, you will be able to know how your guy/gal is going to react to a lot of situation. If you can lovingly handle what he/she can do, I'd say go for it (WRT marriage).

You've not grown if you think you've grown up completely already. God damn it people.

Sort of like insanity?

Exactly like insanity.

I COMPLETELY DISAGREE!!!!!

So is it something subtle like Schizophrenia or something more aggressive?

yea pretty much......